How long did you date him and put up with that. Its the days when I don't get a text that I worry I feel terrible now for ever doubting him. It broke my shelf, we left as an entire family, and our marriage is better than ever. Not in endless discussions of temple marriage, not ever. If so that's a good sign. After being in relationship with him for 3 years, he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. And, as I was writing the reply, above, those thoughts went through my head. We met at home just before he went back to school and even though we only had a week together, it was whirlwind and we already spoke of marriage and kids. The yard stick he uses to assess what is "normal" is so warped that he has lost touch with what a happy life could look like he often berates himself for feeling so miserable given how "easy" his schedule is at just 65 hours a week, not like surgery or some other 80 hour a week speciality. As ex-mormons, can anyone here offer some insight about this girl, her religion, and what exactly I may be getting myself into if I continue dating her.
Ultimately, it comes down to this. You should both sit down and have a serious conversation about what you want and what she wants and if you can both deal with the compromise. And sometimes I think we equate easiness with happiness. Your girlfriend might, or maybe IS, going through this. Not the end of the world. You are not a worthy RM priesthood holder. I suggest to run as it will not get better. These are also only the American statistics. And yet I have such profound respect for his role in our community. I have known many women who have married non-members and are happy.
Righteous love does conquer all but in some cases it takes a lot longer than we are willing to wait. I like to think that what you said really resonated with her. I honoured this request and did not contact her until after her exams finished. Take your date to a club with loud music and an open bar, or an R-rated or violent movie, and the prospects of it going well are daunting. But our marriage is strong, and our children are good people. Ask her right out if she is at all interested in leaving TSCC.
If you try to deconvert her I suggest indirectly at first. I say to you, decisions determine destiny. How will your spouse feel about that in 20 years.
